Sex isn't just about coming to an orgasmic conclusion; it's about connecting physically, spiritually and emotionally with your lover. It's not the end result that's important but the whole sexual experience you share with your partner.  Though an orgasm may feel incredibly amazing, with the right partner sex can lead you down a spiritual path of complete ecstasy. Those who practice Trantric Sex believe this to be the case.

What is Tantra and Tantric Sex?

Tantra is a spiritual, cultural movement that originated thousands of years ago in several countries including India, The Far East and North America.

We in the west want instant gratification. Takeaway is our middle name! The quicker the better, zipper sex, the race to that 'Big O' at the end of the sexual tunnel. The Eastern approach believes in good old fashion making love. Tantric Sex is meditative, spontaneous and very intimate form of lovemaking. By learning to prolong the act of making love and to focus on, rather than dispel, potent orgasmic energies moving through you, thereby raising the level of your consciousness and liberating your inner being.

Simply defined Tantra is 'surrendering totally to all mental, emotional and cultural conditioning, so that you connect with the universe and let the energy that it releases flow through you freely'.

It's a mixture of philosophy and psychology that teaches you to expand your sexual boundaries. Tantra embraces sex as a sacred and divine act when it comes from your heart and body rather than just from your mind.

The 8 Aspects of Intercourse according to Tantric Sex

1. Smarnana:Allowing thoughts of sex to develop in the brain.
2. Kirtanam:Imaging sexual acts possible in the circumstances.
3. Keli:Finding the company of the possible sex partner.
4. Prekshenam: Flirting, receiving attention and energy from a potential sex partner (exhibitionism).
5. Guhya-bhashanam: Intimate conversations with sexual partner such that they understand and are willing partners in the sex act. This stage may be non-vocal and involve mutual touching.
6. Samkalpa: First stage of touching creating the arousal needed for the functioning of higher power liberation. Although touching may have already occurred, this stage is the deliberate and open touching following sexual agreement.
7. Adhyavasayam: Plateau stage of foreplay in which each partner now begins to desire orgasm through full wet sexual contact.
8. Kriyanishpatti: Full wet sexual contact leading toward orgasm without restraint of sexual activity.

By entering into any of these 8 stages is considered as having entered into a part of sexual intercourse. Many religious beliefs and even in the Bible consider if you enter into even stage one it's seen as a sin. Within Tantra, sex isn't a sin, so you've just now been absolved from any unclean thoughts if you've laid your innocent eyes on stages 1-8.

Tantric Ritual Lovemaking

Ritual lovemaking is a crucial element in Tantric Sex. The ritual of Tantric Sex places your body, mind and soul in a state of mind, whereby in that moment in time you enter into a conscious space to become one with your partner, universe and everything it embraces.

The main ingredient within Tantric lovemaking is the cosmic union of opposites, man and women or in our case woman/woman or man/man. Within this union one must let go to be able to make love with the heart, body and soul.

Unlike many yoga practices Tantra has no rules. All it asks of you is to be fully aware and flexible and say 'Yes' to the two contradictions you may feel when letting yourself go to the universe around you.

The Eastern approach is about finding middle ground between feeling intensely happy one minute and in a flood of tears the next. In the West we'd see it as letting the side down and compromising!

Tantra asks you to embrace the mystery of love and life with an open heart, mind and soul rather than being rigid and fixed on an outcome that you don't know the answer to.

Tantric Sex Preparation

To prepare for Tantric Sex one must learn to clear and open their mind ready to embrace everything the universe has to offer as well as allowing their sexual energies flow through them to their partner.

To place your mind, body and soul in a meditative state ready for a bit of Tantric Sex, it's important to set the mood. Such things as mood lighting, candles, soft soothing music in the background and an erotic aroma, all help to put you in the frame of mind.
Below is a list a just a few fragrances that should help put you in the mood for a bit Tantra Lovemaking.

Ylang ylang
Will increase sexual energy and interest. Will place you in a state of euphoria.

Jasmine
Increases sexual energy and interest. May help to put you in the mood for romance.

Rosewood
Calms and relaxes you.

Lavender
Calms and relaxes you

Tantric Sex Guidelines
Though Tantra has no set rules, there are a few guidelines that one should follow before entering into the Tantric Lovemaking Ritual.

1. Begin the ritual by having a bath with your partner - the bath at the beginning helps relaxes and calms the mind. However unappealing it might be spending great lengths bathing in your own dirt, it's important you take your time and meditate with your lover at this stage. Learn to appreciate each other, admire each other's physical forms and use the bathing ritual to empty your mind of worldly thoughts.
2. Eat well - Proper nutrition is vital when embarking on a long Tantric session and the act of sharing and feeding each other is representative of the bond between partners. Meat, fish and honey are all genital foods in Tantra. If you must have alcohol make sure it's in moderation, as it can make you sleepy and loose focus.
3. Set the mood for lovemaking - Dim the lights or use candles, burning scents and soft mood music. Think of using different mood colours as this will help in the overall preparation of your sacred Tantra space. Colours such as violet are believed to stimulate female sex organs (red activates male sex organs).
4. Cover yourself and your body with essential oils - remember to take your time. Pure essential oils are best used (a few drops mixed with a carrier oil such as almond). To charge your sexual feelings try Sandalwood, or for a gentler effect think of trying Geranium or Bermagot.
5. Make sure you are comfortable - you can be naked but if you start with some light-weight clothing (especially chiffon and silk coloured violet/pink for women, red for men) you can discard garments as you intensify the ritual. If you are doing your Tantra ritual on the floor think of using a sheet under you or even softening the area with cushions.

The trick is to take your time and not attempt a quickie with a quick orgasm at the end. By taking your time, controlling your breathing so it's in unison with your partner, relaxing at the point of orgasm, delaying ejaculation for male/male sex, while flowing with the energy through to your partner, you should reach a point whereby you enter into a full-body orgasm.

The experience of a full-body orgasm through Tantric Sex, throws you into a state of Tantric ecstasy. It weaves your body into your lover's into a deep communion of the two, taking the two of you into a higher state of sexual consciousness, creating a whole holistic experience.

Depending on how successful you are at Tantra with your partner, it will either create a sacred sexual space to clear your mind leading to a path of sexual and spiritual ecstasy or if anything burning a few unwanted calories from your 2-hour Tantra attempt!

 

By: Amazin LeThi: www.amazinlethi.com